Is 40 too old to date? How old is too old?

Many men and women who are divorced or single in their 40's are terrified of re-joining mature dating scene.

My newly single friend Alison who's 40 says “"I can't go on a date. I'm 40!”, “I'll be single for ever”, this is what most newly single men and women think about re-entering a dating scene. As they have spent most of their lives in a marriage, they are afraid to speak with strangers, to have a casual flirt, they don't know how to start a conversation, or what to answer if someone will ask them something. These people are often lonely because most of their friends are married couples who have no idea what it is like to be divorced or be single at 40.

So I called my friend a psychologist and relationship counselor, who works with people over the age of 35-45 to help them to become confident and to find their place in the dating world.

Here is what she thinks about "I can't go on a date. I'm 40!" syndrome :

"Nonsense! 40 is the perfect age to start or re-enter a dating world.

I know many happy couples who have met each other in their 40 + and they say that they have never been happier than now even in their 20's.

The fact is there is no “Too old age” to date, to love, to feel passion, people who think like this are wrong, they just don't want to be happy and feel the joy of life.

For those of you who want to start a new relationship, to find a date I have a few simple advice:

• Believe in Love!
• Don't afraid to meet other people. Make an effort to overcome the fear and you'll see how many nice and friendly people there are.
• Open yourself to the world. Don't wear desperation sign on your forehead, go out, talk to people, join community where you can meet other people of your age.
• Be confident in yourself. It might sound funny but it really helps, look in the mirror and practice a few pick-up lines so that you feel more confident when talking to someone.
• Be friendly and smile. People who have positive outlook attract other like-minded people. Try to smile every time you are around other people, make jokes.
• Stay positive no matter what. Every one has a soulmate it's only a matter of time to meet your perfect match."

I agree with my friend, I know it from my own experience, if you genuinely believe in love you'll find it sooner or later. At 40 life isn't over, it's only a beginning of a new, exciting part of your life.

Here Some love quotes of famous people:


"Better to have loved and lost, than not to have loved at all."
                                                                              Lucius Annaeus Seneca

"We cease loving ourselves if no one loves us."
                                                                              Germaine de Stael

"Love is life. And if you miss love, you miss life."
                                                                              Leo Buscaglia

Love and be loved at any age!


First post on hubpages: http://amandajon.hubpages.com/hub/Overcoming-Im-too-old-to-date-syndrome

How do you Attract an Asian Woman if you're an Asian or Not? Trust me, its all the same. If you use the strategies and tips I'll give you below, it's gonna be cake. Take it from a guy who can get Asian women just like that.

1.Stay humble in the beginning. You may be a cocky guy, or heck if you're not Asian and you're naturally like that, hey it's okay. Women love alpha males in general. However, you might want to learn how to calibrate and tone down that cockiness in the beginning.

2.Always be busy and have cool activities around the clock. Asian Women love a busy man. It shows he's industrious and hard working. Again, this is something that falls into the archetype of what she is raised in. Her father was an industrious man, and when she sees you're always on the go, she will find it intriguing.

3.Befriend her beta-male guy friends. Most Asian women have Asian guy friends. Some might act tough, but really 80% of them are really not. Befriend them, show them that you can be a bro as well. Take your time to show her that you can be a good pal to her friends and/or family members.

4.Don't be Pushy or Overaggressive. Here's the thing. With women from other races, they actually like guys who are persistent. Asian women are like cats. You have to build intrigue and make them come to you. Don't be pushy, don't call all the time, and don't be touchy feel in the beginning. Be confident and relaxed when you're around them.

5.Be wary of public displays of affection. As an add on to the touchy feel thing, you don't want to assume that she'll be completely okay with PDA. When you flirt with her maybe a quick nudge or 0.8 second hug is okay, but that's all you want to do. Again, make HER touch you by being chill, relax, and fun.

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Dating Advice for Men Over 40

Dating rules for men never change, what changes is the way to approach partners. At 40, when you have been in a marriage with kids, obviously, your idea of love now must not be just teenage romance or only physical intimacy. If it is that then reconsider your dating plans. If it isn't like that, then this article will be useful to you.

Drop the Customary Dates
You don't need to go to a movie like teenagers on a date. Mind your age and prefer a location where, you can sit with your prospective partner and talk. It's more about sharing then enjoying in amusement park or watching a movie.

Listen to Her
This you can rate as the topmost and eternal dating rules. No matter you're at 20, 30, 40 or 50, you got to listen to a woman, if you want to make any sense of what she is trying to convey you. And I'm not referring to passive listening. I'm here talking about active listening with you participating in it completely. Your partner might also be divorced or must be planning to divorce (if she is not single, obviously), then talk all concerns you both have. Shower her with love and care. If you're single but she is divorced, ensure you're supportive to her and you're also willing to take care of her kids. In case, she is younger than you and still unmarried, she may want lots of surety from you that the marriage will work. She might want to know why you're single at 40. Be ready with honest and frank answers.

Keep the Spark Burning Within
You might be in love with her persona or her looks or everything about her. Compliment her in elegance and style. Yeah, women love original compliments. You can also advice her on wearing dresses that will make her appear more sexier. Moreover, if you show interest in physical appearance, she will certainly understand you're interested in her. Being a bit naughty in your dates works wonders. However, don't overdo it as your age might not allow you too much naughtiness!

Discuss Priorities
At 40, financial issues are very important. Ensure that you both are clear as to how you will move ahead and plan your life. Discussing these issues in your dates will help you to know each other properly. Don't do these in the first few dates but ensure that you discuss deep questions after you're comfortable with your partner.

Physical Intimacy Matters
At 40, men are said to go through a sort of emotional and physiological changes. The male andropause that occurs between 40 to 55 brings hosts of changes in a man's behavior and sexual patterns. It is said men at this age become more interested in younger women. OK, signs of male andropause though haven't been medically proved to a great extent, it's sure that things do change a bit at 40. However, regarding sex, the couple should be very open about their expectations. By proper talking, discussing and staying healthy, couples over 40 can keep the spark of physical intimacy burning.

Online dating, although is very popular requires patience and lot of time from your side before you begin the courtship phase so ensure that you have that much time to invest. No matter you're searching dating tips for men over 50 or over 40, you will find love for yourself, if you search properly and have patience.